Wednesday 12 November 2014

Movember & Me

My mum has asked me why I decided to support this foundation in my own way. She asked why I decided to choose prostate cancer when I’ve never had anyone close to me suffer from the disease.
 
And she hasn’t been the only one, other have asked why I’m writing about Movember, and male health when I should, or could be doing breast cancer. And yes I know, males suffer from that as well, though I’m sure there point wasn’t what mine immediately jumped to.
 
Which is basically the point, as soon as you think health and attach it to a female all you can think about is breasts. I’m not blaming anyone for this, I think of the same thing, especially after both my cousin and mother have suffered and are recovering from to different types of breast cancer.
 
I can’t give a good answer to this point, I have been thinking and wondering myself why this is the charity I’ve decided to support. I could do better with blue pond or some of the other mental health organisation, as it’s something I actually suffer from, but this is the one that’s suck for me.
 
Maybe it’s the sudden rush of the 70’s mo, looking around at the people I know, or strangers on the street, as they run their fingers over there mo’s clearly uncomfortable with the fact that have them. Impressed with themselves at growing such a specimen – it truly depends on the male, lol
 
Maybe it’s for my dad who’s suffered from depression as much as I do, but that just brings us back to the idea of why I haven’t gone that way, there are a lot of Charites, ones that support that different ranges of health.
 
Maybe it’s for my pop, who both my father and me believe suffers the same depression as both of us (he has the same type of moods). He was born in a generation that had men being pack mauls even as they were the most important things in the world, as he was a 30’s child, and woman’s rights weren’t really anything back then.
 
Maybe it’s because even though the world has changed so much we still live in a world that has that same idea, which men should buck up and get over it. That they shouldn’t suffer from depression or health issues, and if they do they defiantly can’t wine about it.
 
Maybe it’s because it’s the first charity that came together that put everything under one roof, that when you see a bloke who’s grown an impressive bit of hair between his nose and lip, that he’s asked why and that everything can be discussed. You aren’t cut off at the knees because it’s only prostate cancer, or only metal heath.
 
It just us an opportunity to talk about things that aren’t often spoken of, and this isn’t just a male thing. we don’t want to hear about health problems not unless we can be a martyr or are the type of person with the worse story.
 
I guess though the same thing about it is charities don’t really open the topic they just show us it’s there, but we’ll get there, eventually, hopefully.
 
So no, I don’t really know why I chose this charity. I don’t know why I’m so passionate about, or it’s more I have no reason behind why I do, and for the most part why should I need one. Why should I have to have a sad sob story to lie down and tell the world? Why should I wait for it to be needed, for the research and the treatments to be a part of my life before I even look twice at a charity and help, even in my own little way, in promoting and enlightening the world?
 
So there’s no reason for me to tell you, sorry. I do kind of wish I had one, a nice little story to pull at the heart before you read my book, but sadly, I don’t. However, maybe you do, and I’d love to hear them, if you need to share.
 
 
 
When everything Paul had ever known turned upside down, suddenly he needs to man up and fight for the love he’s always feared.
 
Paul’s life was set. He had what he needed and what he was comfortable with. Then a night with one of his regular lovers pulls him into the drama of sickness, love, and death.
In the end, Paul needs to work a few things out first: Is he strong enough to fall in love with a man that may need more than he’s able to give, or will he fall into old habits and run when the relationship gets too complicated?
 
A reminder that through the month of November all profits of this book will be going to the Movember charity